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Let Intuition Guide You To Love [EXPERT]

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Let Intuition Guide You To Love [EXPERT]
The answers to matters of the heart reside in your intuition.

Trust your intuition

Intuition is based on feelings we have about people, places, situations and things. Our intuition is the most powerful decision-making tool when it comes to love. The answers to matters of the heart reside in our intuition. While there is a time and place to make decisions with your head, letting your intuition guide you in decisions about love yields the truest answers. Paying attention and being aware of how and what you’re feeling in the moment helps you listen to your intuition. This awareness will take you out of your head and into your heart – where your intuition is.

Love can’t be rationalized, analyzed or intellectualized

Love is based on feelings and emotions, and can’t be rationalized, analyzed or intellectualized. If you’re predominantly left brained, you’ve missed intuitive answers because your mind chatter kept you from being present to what you’re truly feeling in the moment. Here’s what I mean. As a left brained person, it took me years to listen to and trust my intuition. I was very analytical and tended to over think my partner’s behaviors and actions. If you could see into my mind, you would have seen a thick layer of cobwebs.

Clearing out cobwebs

When I was fed up with having the same unproductive thoughts, the same “what should I do” conversations with friends and the same unwanted results, it was time to clear out my cobwebs. Old habits die hard, but the more I practiced, the easier it became. When I became too analytical about my partner and relationship, I paid attention with non-judgmental awareness to how I felt inside. If something didn’t feel right or if I felt contracted, it was a sign for me to not proceed in that direction. If it felt right or if I felt expanded, that was sign for me to move down that path. Clearing out these cobwebs gave space for inner silence and clarity to get in touch with my heart.

Making intuitive decisions

Making intuitive decisions don’t result in “Hindsight is 20/20” because there is no hindsight with intuition. Making decisions aligned with your intuition feels good – that’s how you’ll know that you’re on the intuitive track. Develop your intuitive skills by getting in touch with how you feel and listen to your feelings. Practice more and see better results, feel inner peace and trust in yourself. As with most things in life, practice makes *almost* perfect. As a guilty over-thinker who’s reformed her ways in matters of the heart, I hope you join me in listening to and trusting your intuition.

What have you noticed about your love relationships when you’ve been too analytical vs. when you’ve listened to your intuition?

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Janet Ong

Dating Coach, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter

Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Enjoy the Create True Love Blog.  Janet's articles provide a deeper perspective, are thought-provoking and help you see love in a richer light. They're based on her personal experiences, her perspectives, reflections, beliefs and thoughts.

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