What's Love Got to do with Red Flags?

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What's Love Got to do with Red Flags?
Learn how to recognize red flags in your relationship and what to do about it.

Definition of Red Flag: 1. A warning of danger or a signal to stop. 2. Noticing that something isn’t quite right with your man but dismissing it because you want to be with him, don’t want to be single, you like him, etc.

What Red Flags Mean to Love

 

Red flags warn us that something isn’t right with our partner’s behavior, actions, etc. Denial and doubt are the main reasons we don’t see or believe red flags that happen to us. Until we recognize and learn from these signs, the same red flags will keep showing up in our existing relationships and our next relationship.

Sometimes we can’t put our finger on what it is, even though we feel uneasy about it. We overlook and misread red flags for many reasons including wanting a relationship to work out, getting caught up in the moment, not believing that someone we care about would do something bad to us and focusing on how wonderful we think our partner is.

We’ve all experienced red flags in our love life. I share a couple of mine in hopes that you’ll learn from my mistakes, helping to minimize and save you from pain.

Lessons from My Red Flags

The Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

My 3-month relationship with a man who was actually a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” started out with high hopes. He said the right things, took me to nice places, had a good job, was attractive, etc. We enjoyed each other’s company and I was hopeful that our relationship could work out. After a short period of time, red flags began to pop up. Instead of listening to my intuition, I turned a blind eye to these glaring situations.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by

Janet Ong Zimmerman

Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Co-Author of International Best Seller "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life"

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