How To Love Yourself More On Valentines Day & Everyday

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How To Love Yourself More On Valentines Day & Everyday
Don’t rush into a relationship. Love yourself first so that you'll always feel good about yourself.

“Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” – Russ von Hoelscher

Valentine’s Day is overrated

Valentine’s Day is overrated and if it were up to me, I would change this day to Self Love Day.  

Valentine’s Day brings the following scenarios:

  • Sadness and loneliness for the single woman.  Common thoughts include, “No one loves me.”  ”I wish I could find that special someone.”
  • Uncertainty for the woman who has just started dating.  Common thoughts include, “Will he send me flowers?”  ”Could he be the one?”
  • Expectations that are sometimes followed by disappointment for the woman in a long term relationship.  A common thought is, “Will he propose?”

If you relate to these Valentine’s Day scenarios, notice how they require a man to behave or act a certain way in order for you to feel good about yourself.

What if you could feel good about yourself on Valentine’s Day and everyday…?  You can, but only if you make you the primary focus of your love life.  Instead of being concerned with your single status, or if he really loves you or why he didn’t propose, ask, “How can I love myself more?”  Taking action from this one question will positively transform your life.  It will shift the way you view, approach and experience love.  Focusing on you will let your love life fall into place.

Fall in love with yourself

When you completely love yourself, you will have true love with a high quality man.  You’ll attract men who treat you well.  You’ll enjoy the dating process and find yourself in fulfilling relationships.  Listen to your thoughts to determine whether or not you love yourself.  Critical and judgmental thoughts like, “I’m not good enough.”  “How embarrassing, I can’t believe I said or did that.”  “Why can’t I…?” are signs that you aren’t loving yourself.

Shift from judging to loving yourself by answering, then taking action on this question, “How can I love myself more?”  If you’re having a difficult time answering this, try these 5 practices to help move towards self love.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by

Janet Ong Zimmerman

Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Co-Author of International Best Seller "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life"

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