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How To Embrace Your Relationship Status

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How To Embrace Your Relationship Status
Single or in a complicated relationship? Embrace where you're at and open your heart to love.

The Cycle of Being Single, Dating, in Relationships, Breaking Up, etc.

Every relationship status (e.g. single, in a relationship, separated, engaged, married, divorced) presents opportunities for us to enjoy and embrace. At different times in my life, I wasn’t able to fully enjoy all of my relationship statuses. When I was single, I wanted to be in a relationship. When I was in a not-so-good relationship, I wanted to be single. When I experienced a painful breakup, I wanted to be in a good place as a single person. When we’re not able to enjoy and embrace certain statuses, it’s because we want to be at a different place.

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Even though I was happy being single most of the time, my 20-year cycle of being single, dating, in relationships, breaking up, etc. was hard to enjoy and embrace. The reality is I wanted to experience marriage wholeheartedly, and at the same time, I would rather be single than settle for a half-hearted marriage. After two breakups with the man I dearly love, it became even harder to enjoy and embrace this place in my life until I took full responsibility in 2007 for my role in the demise of this and past relationships.

In hindsight, if I were able to accept and embrace what I wished were different, I would have learned the lessons I needed to learn sooner in order to move forward and create the love life I desired. Taking responsibility and doing the inner work to love myself and know my worth, helped me accept and not wish away these parts of my life.

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10 Lessons Learned

Here is what I’ve learned that may help you accept, enjoy and even embrace where you’re at in life.

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Janet Ong Zimmerman

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Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Author of forthcoming book, "How to Attract a Man Who Completely Loves and Accepts Me: The Empowering Three-Step Approach to Create True & Lasting Love"

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