We use a lot of energy cleaning our external environment without realizing the importance of cleaning our internal environment. Self-imposed barriers keeping us from love are part of this internal environment.
It took me decades to realize that time spent cleaning out my closet was better spent cleaning out barriers keeping me from love. In the process of uncovering and understanding my barriers, I learned 6 lessons that helped me create true love. I share these lessons in hopes that they help you have the love you desire.
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Lesson #1: Your mind is powerful
We bring about what we think about. We tend to approach love from fear when we assume the worst, think that things are too good to be true, are afraid to express ourselves, etc. Pay attention to the type and quality of thoughts you have. Whenever you have a negative thought, question it and replace it with a positive thought that is as true or truer than the negative thought.
Lesson #2: Love and value yourself first
The love, appreciation and approval we seek from others are found within. Until you love and value yourself first, you can’t expect someone else to fully love you. When you truly accept, embrace and love yourself (including the self-perceived bad parts), you’ll attract someone who completely loves and respects you.
Lesson #3: Have a clear vision
If you’re wondering why it’s so difficult to find “the one “, you’re most likely sending mixed messages. Mixed messages bring fuzzy results. For instance, if you’re afraid of commitment and want to be married, you’ll attract men who aren’t able to commit. The universe mirrors back to you what you are, not what you want. Send clear messages by being and staying clear in your desires, behaviors and actions.
Lesson #4: Let go of “how”
Wanting to know how love is going to happen implies that you don’t trust love to find you. Wanting to know how is a form of control and holding onto how you think love should happen. This keeps you from being open to what the universe has in store for you. Take action from a clear vision and let the universe bring you who you’re supposed to be. When you let go, you’ll find love to be better than you could have imagined.
Lesson #5: Be, do, then have
We tend to approach love backwards thinking that having a partner (have) means we can start living our life to the fullest (do) and then we’ll be happy (be). The reality is when you’re happy (be) and living your life (do), you’ll attract a high quality partner (have). First be, then do – and then you’ll have.
Lesson #6: You have the answers
When you don’t know what to do and are stressed, you’re stuck in the cycle of thought. Disengage from your mind and connect with your heart to find the answers. Listen to your intuition and let your feelings guide you to love. When you have a decision to make, visualize each of the choices and choose the one that feels best.
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Love is always in the air. Renew love by cleaning out your internal environment. What will you do to remove barriers keeping you from true love?
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