5 Reasons to Love with Integrity


5 Reasons to Love with Integrity
Be true to yourself by behaving and acting with integrity in order to have the love you desire.

Why you should love with integrity

We tend to journey from relationship to relationship without unpacking the excess baggage of heartaches, sadness, disappointment, anger, etc., accumulated from love. We drag these heavy bags on dates and into relationships, not realizing that the weight of what we carry will keep showing up until we unpack and release.


Unpacking and releasing our inner baggage helps us become better instead of bitter, hopeful instead of fearful, and trust instead of doubt. This is the best way to love. And it opens the way for seeing love in a fresh, positive light for you to be inspired by the possibility of love.

Five reasons to love with integrity

Inspire and transform your love life with these five reasons to love with integrity.

Reason #1: Be more authentic and drop your mask

We tend to behave and do things in ways that show our good sides or hide the sides that we’re embarrassed or ashamed of. Trying to hide these aspects of yourself from your partner is like wearing a mask. You can’t have a deep and meaningful connection when you’re not able to be authentic.

Integrity means being your authentic self and outing your complete self in your relationship. While it may seem scary to let your partner experience your self-perceived bad sides, you can only have a deeper connection when he’s able to know the real you. The way to love with integrity is to uncover, embrace and love all of who you are.

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Reason #2: Know your worth and care less about what others think of you

Caring more about what your partner thinks of you than what you think of yourself gives you an unhealthy one-sided relationship. When you derive your worth from your partner, you’ll try hard to please him, and seek to win his approval and love. While you think you’re being a good partner, your partner sees this as desperate and loses respect for you.

Integrity means defining your own self worth and taking action from your definition. When it comes to love, we weren’t taught or trained on how to love. Most of us didn’t have healthy love relationship role models. Our experience comes from when we were children, with our 8-year-old self running our love life.

The way to love with integrity is to understand the beliefs about love you bought into as a child. By knowing what these beliefs are, you’re better able to work through them. Be the most important person in your life. Treat yourself with the same care, respect and love you would like to have your partner treat you with. Have high quality thoughts and love yourself completely.

Related article: Know Your True Worth

Reason #3: Have more peace and less stress

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by

Janet Ong Zimmerman

Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Co-Author of International Best Seller "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life"

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