Wanna Stay Married? Stay Loveable

By Janet Anderson, MA, LPC-Supervisor. Posted on Oct 17th 2012.

Top 10 Tips for keeping your partner in love with you

10. Don't let sex get too far down the priority list. We can't get enough of each other in the beginning, but as time goes on, we have to pencil it in the calendar. This is a mistake. Sexual intimacy is powerful. Do NOT underestimate its influence. Work at keeping your sex drive active (with your partner ONLY). Keep thinking of yourself as a sexual person. As we age there can be physical limitations but make sure that you keep physical intimacy in some form part of your relationship.

I meet couples who proudly announce they've been married for 20, 30, 40, or more years. I'm not impressed. When I was in my 20's I was sitting in a sauna with an older woman. She said, "Today is my 60th wedding anniversary" I had been married about 2 years at the time. I said, "WOW! Congratulations!" She said, "60 of the most miserable years of my life."

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