I can tell you firsthand that each time I found myself devastated and heartbroken after another failed relationship, if I had been able to see what I was missing out on, I would have been relieved instead of devastated. I realize now how different my life would have been if any of those relationship had worked out. I would have missed out on what I now know is the way a relationship is supposed to feel. A supportive, caring, loving relationship with the guy that’s right for me, who treats me the way I know I deserve to be treated. With the guy who brings out the best in me.
So whether you’re going through this kind of heartbreak right now, or if it happens down the road, and you find yourself lamenting the end of the relationship that you so wanted to be the real thing, take a moment to think about it as a gift. He’s just given you the gift of setting you free. He’s given you the chance of finding the real thing. The chance to find our who you really are, and get very clear on what you really want in a relationship.
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And know that every breakup takes you one step closer to the right guy for you.
P.S. If you’re currently going through a breakup, trust me on this one: no matter what you’re feeling at this moment, one day you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in this guy who right now means so much to you. Because if he truly was the one for you, you’d still be together. And you wouldn’t be feeling this way. He’s not a bad guy, he’s just not the right one for you. He knows it, and you know it too. It’s just hard to accept sometimes when you’re still holding on to the dream of what you wanted it to be. I know, it’s hard. Let yourself feel the pain. Cry those tears. And when you’re ready, remind yourself it’s a gift.
You may not realize it right now, but one day, you will.
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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com.