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6 Legit Reasons To Call Off Your Wedding

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Got cold feet?
Having cold feet isn't a good enough reason to call off a wedding. These reasons are.

4. You haven't lived through all four seasons together. We all know once you hit adulthood a year races by in what seems like an instant, so if you aren't entering into your fifth season with him then you just haven't spent enough time getting to know each other yet.

You're talking about spending a lifetime together — why not wait just one short year before tying the knot? If you're so in the throes of new love that you just can't wait, then by all means get engaged but take at least a year to plan the wedding. You'll be glad you did.

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5. You're doing it for the wrong reasons. If you're marrying him because of pressure from your family or friends or because on paper he seems like such a catch but in your heart you know you're just not feeling it for him, then it's the wrong thing to do. If you're hoping you'll grow to love him, well, it might happen but it's a longshot. Better to hold off until those seeds of love have actually sprouted.

6. He's already cheated on you. See reason number one above. If he's already put himself into the cheater category, it's more than likely going to happen again. The only thing that's going to change is your view of reality.

The truth is, if the relationship is right, then postponing the wedding won't change anything and your love for each other will only grow stronger. When the statistics keep screaming at us that around 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, make sure you're giving yourself the best possible chance to land in the half of couples that stay together for the long haul.

Even if Uncle Harry and Aunt Fiona from England have already bought their plane tickets, it's better to break it off now than go through with it just because you don't want to upset anyone. They'll forgive you. Even if they don't, it's better than suffering through a nasty divorce, or worse, a lifetime of misery with the wrong person.

Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com.

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To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want ... and Deserve".

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve"

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