The Only New Year's Resolution You Need To Make


The Only New Year's Resolution You Need To Make
If you haven't already made yours, here's the only one that really matters.

I started out writing a list of New Year's Resolutions to recommend for this post – a collection of a few that I had made myself over the years.  As I reviewed the list I started crossing some off, and then I started combining the similar ones.  I soon realized it really all came down to one single, simple resolution.   Just one simple goal to strive for this coming year (which is so much easier because it’s hard enough to keep just one resolution!).  In 2013, this will become our mantra: Refuse to Settle for Anything Less Than You Deserve.  

So here’s why this is it - the only one you need to make. Because if you refuse to settle for anything less that you deserve, that means you get who you are.  And what you’re worth.  And why you’re worth just that much.  It means you’ve found your you, or at least, you’ve found enough of your you to know that you deserve all that life and love have to offer you.  It means that you know what you want, and anything less than that just won’t do.


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It means that it’s not just about a man, a love, a relationship, an affair, not being alone, etc., etc.  It means that you refuse to settle for anything less than you deserve in general, in everything.  In your job, your family, your friendships, your passions, your dreams, your goals.  In LIFE!  It means you get that it’s not about being prettier, sexier, thinner, stronger, tighter, more popular, more fashionable, (the list can go on and on).  It’s not about going to the gym every day to workout, although that can be something you choose to do to be healthy and happy, but it’s not just about that kind of surface stuff.  It’s about the real thing, you.  Your dreams.  Your life.  You.  And never letting anyone or anything cause you to think anything less of yourself and what matters to you.  No matter who they are or what they mean to you.  Because you know where it’s at.

Deep down inside, that inner you, you know what you were made for, the life you were meant to live, your birthright, your passion.  You know all this.  It’s just that sometimes in the day to day living, with its ups and downs, realities and disappointments, it’s easy to forget what really  matters and what really just doesn’t matter.  And that’s why when you know your own worth and believe in who you really are, it comes naturally to refuse to settle for a relationship that’s anything less than what you know you want.  It’s without question that you wouldn’t compromise your principles or sell yourself short.  It’s not even a consideration that you’d allow any him to treat you any less than what you know you deserve.

But the reality is, so many of us struggle with this.  So many of us are so afraid of being alone that we find ourselves settling for less than we want, and selling ourselves short in the name of what we call love.  Because we’ve never had this kind of true love in our lives.  So we continue to settle for the crumbs.  The scraps.  But we know in our hearts what true love is, and we know that if we’d just stop settling we’d find that real love – for the first time in our lives. 

This article was originally published at Getting to True Love . Reprinted with permission.
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Jane Garapick

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website

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