While it’s theoretically possible to change your guy’s irritating habits gently and kindly, it’s very difficult and could very well put you on a destructive path that can severely damage your relationship. A better bet is to find a way to see the “lovability” in his minor flaws, remind yourself of your own flaws and bad habits you’d like to change in yourself when you encounter his, and spend your energy trying to change those instead of trying to fix his. It also helps to keep a mental list of three things that you love about him, and check those off in your mind whenever you notice his less than desirable traits.
In the end, you have to choose between loving your guy unconditionally, which means with his annoying flaws and all, or walking away. A big part of being in a deep emotional relationship with another person means accepting them for what they are – the good, the bad and the ugly. Then focus on the good.
If you can find it in yourself to do that, you’ll truly be a richer person for it. Richer in love.
Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want ... and Deserve"