I know this first hand, being brought up with the mantra that it’s selfish to put yourself first. That it’s always better to be in the shadows, where it’s safer. To avoid putting yourself out there, in the forefront, because, after all, if you fail, everyone will notice.
It turns out, just like most of us, that’s exactly how I was living my life. Because even though I consciously knew I could be whatever I wanted to be and do whatever I wanted to do, the reality was I didn’t truly believe any of it.
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Even though I had traveled far away from my childhood home, alone, to pursue my dreams, I still didn’t get it at the level that you need to in order to truly believe in yourself and actually make your dreams into your own personal reality. Because I didn’t really believe I deserved that reality. I didn’t really get that it’s our very own birthright to live our lives to their fullest potential.
And if that means living life out loud, in the spotlight, in the forefront for everyone to see us try something and fail, that’s OK, because the point is that it’s about doing what we’re passionate about.
And the truth is, if you’re doing what you’re passionate about, what you love doing, you can’t fail. Sure, you may have some stumbles along the way that look like failure, but if you’re truly passionate about it, truly love what you’re doing, you’ll keep adjusting, based on those stumbles, and keep on trying. And you’ll be loving your life the entire time.
What do you think? What would you do differently if you could go back and do it all over again? Tell us about it in the comments.
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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve"