Are you hoping that your prince charming is going to come along and save you? If so read this!
Ask yourself the following questions, and be totally honest with yourself:
- Does your self-talk sound like "I'm such a mess", or "why am I so insecure?", or other similarly self-deprecating statements?
- Do you think that someday you will meet a guy who will pull you out of the funk that you're in and make you happy?
- Do you think a guy will come along and solve all of your problems – whether it be financial, emotional or physical?
- Do you find yourself typically looking up to your partner? Do you find yourself falling for the professor in college, your boss at work, or someone that you feel has authority over you?
- Do you often get starry eyed over a guy who shows interest in you that you think is out of your league?
- Do you find yourself feeling like your partner is all that, and you really can't understand why he'd even be with someone like you?
- Are you looking for someone to make it all better?
If you answered yes to one or more of these, it's a sign that you may be looking for a man to come along and save you from the life that you're currently living. The truth is that this is a very bad reason to get into a relationship, and it will almost inevitably fail.
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The Good News
Nobody is coming to save you.
Why is this good news? Because once we realize that no one is coming to save us, there's a kind of ethereal calming of the soul; a relief, a release of anxiety. Because now you know it's not going to happen, and you can stop waiting and move on with your life.
You can now get to work on making it happen for yourself. You're now in control. Because waiting for someone else to rescue you from your current reality is handing over the reins to fate, and sitting and waiting for something external to happen to you. While this may seem easier, it's actually more stressful, because deep inside we feel stressed when we feel like our lives are out of our control. Taking it on yourself is to take control of your life, accept responsibility for yourself and your actions, and recognize that things don't just happen – you make them happen.
You can now freely let go of the idea that something outside of yourself, something that you have no control over, must happen or change before you can be happy. You can let go of the idea that someday things will be better, and you can start making things better today.
This article was originally published at Getting to True Love . Reprinted with permission from the author.