9 Love Lessons I've Learned In 10 Years Of Marriage

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6. Be compassionate. When he's grouchy or snappy — particularly when it's directed at you — instead of getting defensive, feeling hurt, and pouting, snapping back or blaming, instead try to understand why he might be upset and where he's coming from. He's stressed about something, so find out what it is. Then let him know that you understand, remind him that you're a team (see number 4) and that you're here to help. And the great thing is he'll soon be doing the same for you. 6 Tips For A More Compassionate Relationship

7. Let go of having to be right. When arguing always be truly open to what your partner is saying and focus on listening and understanding his point of view before talking. Even if after listening and understanding you still absolutely believe that you're right, instead of arguing about it to the bitter end, practice looking at is as he has a different opinion than you do (note: don't actually say those words, it'll just make things worse. Simply think them and move on.) 

8. Do one special thing for your partner every day. Try something that he would love you to do for him and something that's unexpected (if you normally do the laundry, that doesn't count.) Why one thing every day? Because this will get you thinking about your partner in a selfless manner. It will change the way you view him, will make you feel more loving towards him, will make him absolutely adore you, and best of all, you'll be happier. When you're thinking of things to do for him, remember that men feel loved when you do something for them ... particularly something that helps them out and lightens their load. How Do You Set Realistic Expectations In A Relationship?

9. Chill out. There will be a time where you're just absolutely ready to blow your top (or have already.) Instead of making things worse by screaming about the fact that he's acting just like his father, stop before the words come out, open the door and go outside to take a walk. Cool off and don't talk until you feel like you can do it calmly. And forget the old maxim, "Don't go to bed angry" – sometimes sleep just makes things better. You can patch things up over coffee.

Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve"

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

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