7 Terrible Reasons To Stay In A Relationship

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7 Terrible Reasons To Stay In A Relationship [EXPERT]
If any of these reasons sound familiar, it's time to rethink your relationship.

3. You're stuck in the fairytale. It started out as such a storybook romance. He was the knight in shining armor, you the damsel to be saved. Or, it was such a fateful, romantic chance meeting that brought the two of you together that you just know it was destiny, and you'll do whatever it takes to fulfill that destiny.

But, the reality is something more like this: he was charming in the beginning, you had some great chemistry, but you're not really compatible in your goals, values, or beliefs. It's time to let go of the fairytale and see it for what it really is: a bad match.

 

4. You feel guilty about the idea of leaving him. You want to get out, and you know it's not healthy for either of you, but you know he'll be devastated and you don't want to hurt him. You may also feel that if you leave him, he won’t be able to find another woman who will care for him, and he'll fall into a depression.

While this is an excellent reason to try to help him, it's no reason to stay in a romantically connected relationship with him. If you are seriously concerned, make sure he has access to help, but don't take on the responsibility of being his savior. Leave that to the professionals.

5. You're feeling pressure from family or friends to settle down. You know he's not the right guy for you, but your family likes him so much and you just don't want to disappoint them. Or, all of your siblings and most of your friends are married already, and everyone's questioning when you're going to settle down, asking you "when's the wedding?"

This kind of external pressure may make you feel like you should just settle for less than you want and commit to a guy that's really not right for you, so don't do it. Post-Breakup Rebound? Why Men Move On So Fast

6. It's easy. The relationship is not great, and certainly not what you always wanted, but it fits in your comfort zone, and you're afraid of change. He's not the worst partner, and who knows if you'll find anything better; as the saying goes, the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. Trust in your heart that when you learn how to find and choose the kind of guy that's right for you, change will be good.

7. You're afraid that no one else will want you. You're afraid you won't be chosen by anyone else, so you stick with what you've got. This one is all too common, and is due to low self-confidence and low self-esteem.

The good news is that it's fixable, and you can have fun in the process. By trying new things, learning new skills, and finding out what makes you happy, you will build up your confidence levels. Finally, your self-esteem will automatically rise with it.

It's kind of a snowball effect, and it's the best thing you can do for yourself and your life, as it will help your career, family ties, and friendships get stronger. And then you'll find that you're the one doing the choosing.

This article was originally published at Getting to True Love . Reprinted with permission.
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Jane Garapick

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

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