3. Give yourself a reality check. Spend some time with a married couple or a friend who's in a long term relationship to see the realities first hand for yourself. Being a part of a couple is wonderful but maintaining a healthy relationship doesn't happen without challenges. A reality check while being around them can give you a fresh perspective on some of the benefits of being single that you may not have realized during your quest to become a couple. This perspective can help to inspire you to enjoy your singlehood to the fullest.
4. Ignore the cultural messages. Remember, most of couplehood is just programming and marketing and the culture doesn't reflect what is going on in your life. Hard to do, I know, but if you remind yourself of just how many single people there are out there and how much money is made off of advertising that targets getting married, having a family and living happily ever after, it will help you see just how much of these cultural messages are actually part of big business and not about your love life (or lack of one).
5. Remember to breathe. Stop being so hard on yourself. Just because you've been where you've been and gone through your experiences doesn't mean you're set up to repeat the same patterns over and over again. You can make changes; you can do things differently and you can stop repeating old patterns. You can (and will) attract someone different into your life as you begin to realize those baby steps towards changing those old patterns.
Remember, this is your time, your space, your season, your life. Don't let someone else's idea of what it means to be happy take away from the joy of being you — radiant, beautiful, confident, currently single YOU!
Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve".