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3 Ways To Know He's A Keeper

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3 Ways To Know He's A Keeper
All too often we overlook the three most important essentials of a real relationship.

This one is important for one main reason: If he's not really that into you, then you're the one doing the chasing and even if you do coax a reasonable facsimile of a relationship out of him, it will never be what you truly want and it will most likely dissolve over time. The bottom line is that you both need to be into each other. You know that you're into him otherwise you wouldn't even be considering it, but you have to make sure he's really into you also.

The tricky part is knowing when he actually likes you for who you are and what you are and not just for your physical attributes. If he doesn't seem to genuinely enjoy spending time with you and just being with you, at least much of the time (many people need their individual space, but let's be reasonable), then it just won't work long term.

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You have to be real about it – looks fade and the initial passion wanes, but if you truly like being with one another then the attraction and passion changes into something that actually grows over time - and that's what you really want.

What do you think? What other tell-tale signs let you know he's a keeper? Tell us about it in the comments!

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve"

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve"

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