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3 Reasons To Make Him Wait To Sleep With You (And How To Tell Him)

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No guy wants to wait to have sex with you, or do they?

If you've ever had a guy have sex with you and disappear, then maybe you're open to the idea of making the next guy wait to sleep with you.

With this in mind, let's break down three excellent reasons to make him wait to sleep with you, and how to break the news to him in a way that has him coming back for more.

 

1. Courtship.

Contrary to popular belief, men do want to fall in love. They often just don't know how. Luckily, now you do. Men fall in love, when you require courtship.

Courtship is one person chasing the other. Courtship begins when you say, "I really like you, I think you're handsome, funny, charming etc. however, I feel I don't want to sleep with you until I know you better. What do you think?

If he's willing to get to know you better, he likes you for you, and you've started a courtship. If he's not, you've averted a hookup.

 

2. Friendship.

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No friendship builds beyond the first lay. Sex can distract a man from being interested in you as a human being.

For a man to fall in love with you, he has to start to like you in ways that have nothing to do with sex.

Friendship is built on the days and hours you spend before you have sex. Once you enjoy each other's company, and are comfortable with each other, sex is seamless.

 

3. Relationship.

Relationships are built between people who can make and keep agreements. If a guy can agree to wait to have sex with you, you're on your way to having a relationship.

A guy who likes you, has what it takes to love you. If you can inspire him to court you, by simply saying "no" to casual sex with him. You will awaken the part of him that wants to fall in love and be in a relationship with you.

Courtship, friendship and relationship are the reasons to make him wait to sleep with you. Try them out, he'll love you for it.

 

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.