What Men Really Want In A Relationship (But Have No Idea How To Ask For)

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What Men Really Want In A Relationship
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This is what he wants in a relationship with you.

If you've ever wondered what men really want in a relationship, you're not alone.

Is it sex? Is it love? Is it friendship? Even guys themselves can't really tell you.

However, there is one thing that men crave. It's something they can't do without even though they're not aware of it.

Sure, sex is fun and falling in love is exciting. Everyone knows that friendship is an important part of a relationship, but if you really want to know what men want, you have to understand how they think.

With that in mind, here's what men really want in their relationships:

1. You respect him.

Men want respect. Men intuitively know that you can only fall in love with a man you respect.

What does respect look like for a man? It means you're willing to follow his lead and direction. It's a simple as being willing to go where he wants to take you and being available when he asks you out.

These simple acts signal a man that it's possible to have a relationship with you. They also give you the opportunity to explore who he is and what he has to offer you.

Men go with women who they believe respect them and who they think they can give a better life to.

2. You have boundaries.

A man who knows what he wants goes after it and this might take some getting used to on your part.

Follow him unless he asks you to do something you don't feel comfortable with. In which case, use your veto right to say "no."

Men often get ahead of themselves including asking for sex they're not ready to have. However, it's not your job to squash their enthusiasm; it's to let them know what your boundaries are.

3. You keep pace with him.

Men really want you to move with them. They want to know that you respect who they are and how they are in the world.

When you respect a man, he will do anything for you. Men marry women who respect them.

You want a man who comes on strong, knows what he wants, and is willing to lead.

You dance with him and let him lead to find out how he handles reality.

A good man always takes your feelings into account. He asks you how you feel about what he thinks and wants.

So what do men really want? Respect. How do you give it to him? By being available to explore his leadership to see if he's the right guy for you.

Will he come on strong? I hope so. I hope he tells you what he wants and asks you how you feel about it.

Dance with him. Find out how he handles reality. If you find out over time that you respect him. He may very well be the right man for you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought-after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

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