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The 3 Things Men Look For In The Strong Women They Marry

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What Men LOOK For In Strong Women They Want
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(As written by a man who knows.)

A man is turned on by what he sees. However, he's attracted to what he can't see.

There will never be a man as strong as a woman on the inside. This is demonstrated by her ability to say "no", the flexibility of her "yes", and by her standards.

Let's look at how these three things come together to create the total package of strong women:

1. That you have standards.


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When a strong woman has standards, it allows a man to know where he stands at any time in the relationship.

When a man is attracted to you, he wants to know one simple thing: What does it take to be with you?

When you answer this question with your standards and you say "no" to anything that's below your standards, you're giving him a roadmap of what it takes to be with you.

2. That you can say no to him.

As much as a man will try anything to get you to say "yes", the strength of a woman is in her ability to say no.

Men are attracted to women who know how they feel. When you say "no" to what doesn't feel good, a man suddenly wakes up and values you. Men are inspired by what takes effort to obtain.

3. That you're the total package.


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A real man is looking for the total package. For men, this means a woman who isn't afraid to say "yes" and knows when to say "no".

Saying "yes" to a man turns him on — he sees you as flexible and available. Saying "no" to a man inspires him to do better in order to be with you.

A confident woman knows how to give a man three things he's looking for.

Standards give him a roadmap of what's required to be with you. Add to that the flexibility of your "yes" and the firmness of your "no" makes the total package to what attracts a man to you in a way that lasts.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.