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The Slow Turn-Him-ON Formula That Attracts ANY Man To You

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The Turn Him ON Slow Formula That Attracts Quality Men
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It's all about the right temperature.

When a guy likes you, he's turned on and he can't help himself. His enthusiasm is off the charts. He wants to see you all the time and has big plans.

Enthusiasm is important and you want a man to have it; the only problem is that it distorts his sense of reality. This is where you come in.

In order to turn his enthusiasm into a reality, you have to slow him down without squelching his enthusiastic bliss.

The hard part is turning his enthusiasm into responsibility and you can do this by letting him know what you require in a relationship.

Men demonstrate love by what they're willing to be responsible for. This means you can count on him for more than just the feeling of love.

Slowing a man down allows him to consider the more practical aspects of a relationship. It requires him to come up with a plan.


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The first way to slow a man down — and the most sobering — is to NOT have intercourse with him until you get to know him better.

You do this by letting him know that you think he's smart, funny, and handsome. However, you don't feel comfortable having sex until you get to know him better.

This allows him to get to know you as a human being, not just someone he's attracted to.

When a man is overly focused on sex, he loses sight of reality and stops making plans with you. 

Slowing him down allows him to stay enthusiastic about having a relationship with you and winning you over.

When a man is focused on reality and creating a definitive plan for you, he's turned on slowly and you're on your way to having a long-term relationship.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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