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The One Secret Word That Makes A Man Commit FAST

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The One SECRET Word That Makes A Man Commit Fast
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Here's how to get to the finish line.

You know he wants you. He can't keep his hands off of you and he's trying to tear your clothes off.

However, you've been down this road before and you know that tearing your clothes off doesn't lead to commitment.

Before you decide "What the hell, what's one more hay-ride?", I want to suggest that you use the one secret word that makes a man commit fast.


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Now, I'm not saying that you're not going to meet resistance. You have to be comfortable with that. Furthermore, you also have to use this word at the right time.

 

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So, when is the right time?

The right time is when he wants to have intercourse with you. I'm going to be specific here because if you're just making out, that's not the right time.

Once he wants to have sex with you, you're ready for the magic word.

The magic word is "UNTIL". You may ask, "Until? James, until what?" Well, that depends on where you're at.

 

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For example, let's say you just met a guy at the club. You've been dancing all night and he wants to go home with you.

You're making out in the car when he invites you to the proverbial your place or mine.

That's when "UNTIL" comes in.

For example: "I really like you and appreciate you inviting me to your place or mine. However, I don't feel comfortable doing that UNTIL I get to know you better. What do you think?"

The use of "UNTIL" allows you to:

1. Let a man know that you like him.


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2. That you have boundaries and requirements.

3. What those boundaries and requirements are.


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A man commits fast when he realizes he cares about how you feel, respects what you think, and is willing to negotiate with you.

 

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"UNTIL" allows you to set a standard that he can commit to. It takes you out of the category of a hookup and into the category of a serious relationship.

Once a man agrees to take the time to get to know you, he's on his way to being committed to you... fast.

 

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets in A Life of Love.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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