How To Turn A Guy On Without EVEN Trying

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As written by a guy.

Some will lead you to believe that to turn your man on is about technique. Giving a great blowjob will keep him hopelessly infatuated with you. 

Now, I'm not saying that good foreplay technique doesn't hurt. I'm just saying that the definition of a man being turned on happens way outside of the bedroom.

Being turned on happens in a man's head. Here are 3 ways on how to turn a man on that even he's not aware of. No bedroom technique required:

1. Say "yes". 


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When he asks you to do something, say "yes". When he asks you to go somewhere, say "yes".

Men are turned on by the sound of "yes". Once he senses you're happy to be with him, the lights go on.

He starts imagining all the possibilities of what being with you could be like. And yes, his mind is wandering into what it would be like to have sex with you. That's because you've been saying "yes", and that's a good thing.

2. Follow him


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He grabs your hand and wants to escort you across the street — let him. He directs you to go upstairs, downstairs, around the corner, down the street, it doesn't matter — follow him.

When a man senses you're willing to follow him, it turns him on. He starts to get the feeling that he could take care of you. Men want to lead and when you're willing to follow, it's a major turn on.

3. Admire him. 


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"OK, James now you've gone too far. You want me to admire him."

Do this only if you're interested in turning him on. If you want to stay just friends, feel free to skip this step.

Admiration for a man is way easier than it sounds. It comes naturally with a man you truly like.

Admiration simply means you appreciate his sense of humor, his intelligence, and his productivity in the world. And here is the key — you let him know that you do.

The biggest turn on for a man as simple as this sounds is, "Wow she really likes me." You may think this happens all the time but I assure you that it doesn't. Men live in a desert of lack of recognition. Adoration is an oasis for them.

Men follow a simple formula. When you say "yes" to them, it gets them thinking what's possible. When you follow them, it gets them thinking that they can take care of you. When you admire them, it ignites a noble quality that makes them want to be better men.

It depends on what your definition of turning a man on is. If you want to seduce him, sexual prowess will definitely work. If you want him to fall in love with you. Then, say "yes", follow him and admire him.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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