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3 Easy Ways To Turn Your Crush Into Love

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So much more than just butterflies...

When you first meet a guy and realize that you have a crush on him, it's exciting.

You start to imagine what it would be like to really be with him. Not just hanging out as friends, but going on dates, getting to know each other in a deeper way, and eventually getting physical and having sex

Those fantasies are how you know you have a serious crush, and when they don't seem to go away, you wonder if that friendship could become something serious.

But before you can fall in love, there are certain things that need to fall into place.

With that in mind, here are three ways to turn your crush into love that lasts:

 

1. Laughter

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Love starts when you're laughing.

When you connect with a guy through laughter it means your imaginations are coming together.

Laughing together also helps you bond. All those happy hormones flood your bodies and make you feel excited and alive.

Use the excitement of your crush to have fun and be yourself.

Laughter is a sign you're on the same page and you're starting to connect. It's the first step in making your crush a reality.

 

2. Conversation

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A relationship is a conversation that doesn't end.

The way to get your crush moving is to talk.

What makes a crush magical is the other world you're in together. A world where it's just you two, and all the other meaningless stuff disappears.

What makes it real is when you can talk to each other in that world. Not just friendly banter, but serious talking.

 

Giving life to your thoughts and feelings deepens your relationship more than anything else. Connection with a guy happens when you feel heard and known.

Guys feel the same way, even if they don't usually know how to express it that way.

 

3. Trust

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Love is demonstrated by the ability to make and keep agreements. A crush takes no effort and no planning, it's a gift.

When you start to make agreements, you're on the way to building something based on trust, and that is the foundation of any relationship that lasts.

It's as simple as calling when you say you're going to call, showing up when you say you're going to show up.

But the payoff for building that trust — and keeping it — is so worth the effort. 

 

A crush is a signal your heart is awake. Love allows you to invest in each other. Laughter is a sign you're on the same page.

A conversation that doesn't end is a signal you're with someone you can build with.

A man who can make and keep agreements with you transforms from a crush into a relationship that lasts. 

So be on the lookout for all of those signs, so you can turn your crush into love.

 

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.