How your dad treated you affects the men you choose to date later on.
Did he care about how you feel or did he ask you what you think? If he walked in the door, would he ask you how you felt or what you did today?
If your dad raised you to do good and feel good, you will attract men who want you to feel good.
If he didn't, you may be distracted by Peter Pan men.
Peter Pans are charming, funny and great in bed. They're just not great at working or holding steady jobs. They have big plans and great ideas, but they're not worth much when it comes to doing the footwork.
Of course, they make you feel sensual for a few moments. However, you're always the one who has to make plans. You're always the one that has to get things done.
If you're dating someone like your father, a man who wasn't there for you and didn't care about how you feel, you may recreate the same pattern with the men you're dating.
You can change this pattern by following these 3 steps:
Step 1: Awareness
Step 2: Acceptance
Step 3: Take contrary action
Choose men who care about how you feel. These are men who make plans and want to build something with you. These are men who don't just look good to your eyes but also sound good to your ears.
The body doesn't lie. When you're dating, ask yourself this one simple question: Does being with this guy feel good or not feel good?
This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.