What Men Think About Being A Man In Life


What Men Think About Being A Man In Life
It turns out it's not just about having a girlfriend. For men only.

Too much time with a woman can knock out a man's drive, his purpose. He can get lost in his sensual and sexual and binge. Men have to produce to be grounded. Feeling good can be dangerous for a man it gives him a false sense of accomplishment with nothing to show for it. Men do better with satisfaction. Satisfaction with a job well done. This keeps him grounded in his masculine because his purpose is not outside himself; his purpose is his reward.

A masculine energy man won't be as sexy as a feminine energy man because he is focused on what he is doing in the world. A feminine woman won't be as sexy as a masculine woman because she is focused on building relationships versus having sex.

As a man, you're going to have to fight for your masculinity. Every good sense will tell you to suppress it. You'll have to fight to be alone because your woman won't like it; you will have to fight to be yourself because your boss won't like it. You'll have to fight with yourself because you won't trust your creativity.

In essence, you'll fight to be who you truly are. Make no mistake—when you are not on your side, you will take the first easy way out. You'll take the promotion or the pay raise—anything that promises a softer easier way out. However, what you wont be able to take is the insistence inside yourself that you are selling yourself out. If you're lucky, you won't be able to drown this voice out.

At first, there will be signs to trust it. Eventually there will come conviction, and then more signs, inspiration, and clarity of purpose. It takes time and space for your innate wisdom to come through. The wisdom is looking for a channel, The question is, will it be you?

Will you stand pat and watch someone else do it and then say you had that idea, or will you get it done? Jump and the net will appear. The universe needs you to express itself as much as you need it. Be a vessel for the creative flow and you cannot be denied an inspired life. A life worth living is based on the value you give it and based on the value you give yourself. Life will pay you what you think you are worth.

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James Allen Hanrahan

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,




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