Your Single Girlfriends Relationship Advice

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Your Single Girlfriends Relationship Advice
Are your girlfriends keeping you single?

When I speak to my clients I have two challenges one is the man they're dating the other is the clients girlfriends. The man is easy because I'm a man and I understand how men think and what to say to them.

The girlfriends are a bigger challenge for the client because they listen to them and ask them for advice when they're vulnerable. Of course their girlfriends are well meaning the problem is they are only hearing one side of the story and their job is to be supportive of their friend.

 

What typically happens are these typical responses. " I wouldn't put up with that." " He's a jerk" etc. This all may very well be true however it tends to turn the guy into the enemy which is great for bonding relationships with girlfriends but deadly for relationships with men. Once you're convinced he's the enemy he suddenly doesn't do anything right. And you begin to experience the 2nd extremely dangerous relationship killer wanting or demanding more, better and different.

This as result of a great pep talk from a girlfriend leads to another favorite of people about to end a relationship; confrontation.By the time I get the next call we have a full blown problem. Fortunately I'm used to this by now and I can talk you down enough until you are willing to talk with the guy to find a solution.

There are always challenges in relationships the problem is not that they happen. The beauty is in how you solve them. When a guy has upset you but is willing to negotiate with you, to understand you, this is the beginning of a relationship not the end. It's an exciting time because there is a possibility for intimacy and for being who we truly are. In the end isn't that what we all want?

P.S. Girlfriends are great however if you want a man watch Chemistry to Commitment or read A Life Of Love.

P.S.S. For specific challenges with men use personal coaching. Space is limited.

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James Allen Hanrahan

Relationship Coach

I work with professional alpha women and the men who love them. Smart, successful people with an on going war between their head and their heart which makes it difficult to have lasting, loving relationships. Welcome.

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,

James

 

 

Location: Santa Monica, CA
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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
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