Promise Ring 23 Hours Before Sex

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Promise Ring 23 Hours Before Sex
Promises, promises. Which men do you keep before you have sex.

If I could have sex with a woman by giving her a"Promise Ring," I would do it. It’s like leasing a car. You get a new car, you have the option to buy, and you take the car off the market. Have you ever had someone say to you, “I won’t do it again. I promise.” I rest my case.

A ring is a symbol of a relationship you already have. A ring will not give you a relationship. Are we aware that guys will promise anything to have sex with you? A ring. That’s easy. I suggest working on the other 23 hours.

We talk about waiting a year before marrying. Getting to know someone in every season. I say, this is good advice.

I also suggest we get to know someone for all 24 hours of the day. Sleep next to someone not sleep with them, next to them. Snuggle, kiss, whatever, but sleep. Ask yourself, “Do I sleep better with this person? Does my body feel safe or am I just exhausted from sex and I’ll leave in the morning?”

Make is seamless. I knew I wanted to be with my wife very early on. My actions showed it. I don’t believe in promises. I believe in agreements. A relationship is built on a series of agreements. If I tell my wife I’ll call her tomorrow, I do. If I say, we’ll go out on Friday, we do.

A ring is a symbol of a long list of kept agreements, an unbroken circle, a chain of events that keeps going. I’m with my wife today because we keep agreeing to do more. We agree to come home, to go dancing, to go to breakfast, to go to dinner. We agree to fill in the other 23 hours, not for the goal of having sex, rather because we enjoy those hours together.

People say to me, “James, that’s great, but how about the sex?” What kind of sex are we talking about? I’m talking about the kind of sex where I can devour my wife with full masculine energy, a sex she can surrender into with total feminine energy. Agreement makes for amazing sex. It gives you the freedom to be yourself.

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,

James

 

 

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