If I could have sex with a woman by giving her a"Promise Ring," I would do it. It’s like leasing a car. You get a new car, you have the option to buy, and you take the car off the market. Have you ever had someone say to you, “I won’t do it again. I promise.” I rest my case.
A ring is a symbol of a relationship you already have. A ring will not give you a relationship. Are we aware that guys will promise anything to have sex with you? A ring. That’s easy. I suggest working on the other 23 hours.
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We talk about waiting a year before marrying. Getting to know someone in every season. I say, this is good advice.
I also suggest we get to know someone for all 24 hours of the day. Sleep next to someone not sleep with them, next to them. Snuggle, kiss, whatever, but sleep. Ask yourself, “Do I sleep better with this person? Does my body feel safe or am I just exhausted from sex and I’ll leave in the morning?”
Make is seamless. I knew I wanted to be with my wife very early on. My actions showed it. I don’t believe in promises. I believe in agreements. A relationship is built on a series of agreements. If I tell my wife I’ll call her tomorrow, I do. If I say, we’ll go out on Friday, we do.
A ring is a symbol of a long list of kept agreements, an unbroken circle, a chain of events that keeps going. I’m with my wife today because we keep agreeing to do more. We agree to come home, to go dancing, to go to breakfast, to go to dinner. We agree to fill in the other 23 hours, not for the goal of having sex, rather because we enjoy those hours together.
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People say to me, “James, that’s great, but how about the sex?” What kind of sex are we talking about? I’m talking about the kind of sex where I can devour my wife with full masculine energy, a sex she can surrender into with total feminine energy. Agreement makes for amazing sex. It gives you the freedom to be yourself.
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