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How To Pick A Dating Coach


Dating coaches come in all shapes and sizes. Find one that fits you.

Having a coach is the best thing you can do in any aspect of your life. The key is to learn from people who have done what you want to do and have the results you want. Asking poor people how to be rich doesn't work. Asking single people when you want to be in a relationship doesn't work. Commiserating with like minded, well meaning others may feel good in the moment however nothing changes.

Here are 3 things to look for in a dating coach.

1. They have a mentor. I owned a yoga studio for many years and the first thing I asked prospective teachers is who is your teacher? What kind of training do you have? If they told me they used to be stiff and are now really flexible that would not be enough for me to hire them.

2. Are they married or in a relationship. Before I got married this would not be a criteria for me after being married it definitely is. You need someone on the front lines who is right where you want to be. So much of what I share with people is a direct result of being married right now.

3. Can they teach you. I learned this the hard way owning a yoga studio. Some people have an amazing practice they just can't help you. A great dating coach knows how to inspire you. Knows how to walk with you and take you from where you are now to where you want to be.

The 3 questions to ask are. Who is your mentor? What are your personal results? Who have you gotten similar results for? If you're satisfied and inspired by these answers, if your dating coach is enthusiastic about helping you, then get started; take action.

The thing that holds most people back from having what they want is not taking a small action step in the direction they want to go. It's called momentum. When you find someone you resonate with follow the feeling and contact them. Take the next step and let yourself know you're serious about changing this aspect of your life.

Much love,


P.S. If you resonate use Elite personal coaching.


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