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Do You Like The Guy You're Dating?
Are you and your boyfriend compatible?

When you stop to think about it compatibilty is when two people like each other. When your body is on fire this might not seem important. When your house burns down it is. We’re definitely playing with fire when we mate. The right person can take us to highs we only dream of. The wrong person well we already know how that goes.

Like is underrated. Commonality does not invoke fireworks. That's the reason it's important, it's foundational. When we like someone they grow on us. They grow with us, our paths join, we have common interests. It can be as simple as geography. We both like to live in the same place, the same country. Like is often underestimated. I joke with my friend. He says, "I just met a girl from Peru." I say, "Great. When are you moving to Peru?"

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It can be as seemingly trivial as when you go to bed, when you get up, what kind of movies you like, common hobbies. Perhaps the biggest piece is how you spend your time. Time alone, time together, time with other people. Some people are extroverts, they like to be around people. They get their energy being around people. Some people are introverts; they gather energy by being alone. Like goes a long way. Like takes time, it takes objectivity, something chemistry often doesn’t have. Building a life together is not magical thinking; it’s brick by brick, stone by stone,foundational. The basic foundation is agreement.

People who can make and keep agreements are commitible. When we like each other we begin to get on the same page, then we write the book. Commonality gives us a chance.Long distance doesn't. Conflicting lifestyles doesn't. Conflicting values doesn't. Common ground is simple. I like you. I like how you are. I like who you are. I like your house, your clothes, your car. I like you enough. Not perfect .Enough. You are someone I can laugh with.

We're looking for integrity, for soundness of mind and body. Someone we can resonate with, who hears us and sees us. Physical beauty is packaging. We take the wrapper off to find the things we’re looking for.

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James Allen Hanrahan

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,

James

 

 

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