Dear Ex: How Many Women Do You Need?

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Dear Ex: How Many Women Do You Need?
P.S. Please share this letter with your next girlfriend.

How many women do you need? Because one is not enough. One will frustrate you. One will help you castrate yourself or liberate you .

It will be hard to tell the difference because you are your own worst enemy. You will
sabotage yourself and blame it on her. Then you will find someone else to take away the scent of the trail, the trail to yourself.

You will betray yourself with a new distraction so you never have to cross the finish line and with renewed enthusiasm you will go around in circles.

Make no mistake you will betray yourself when the going gets hard because it's going to be her fault. If she was just something enough you wouldn't have to change horses. It has nothing to do with her.

How many women do you think you're going to need ? Let yourself know. Then let yourself of the hook admit you have no intention to change and get real.

You'll always be one more woman away from where you're going, one more bridge to cross. The challenge is knowing when you're lost. When you're chasing your tail.

You will know it because nothings going to change. Because the change is in you and that's the good news.

Thank you for the lesson. I love you but not more then myself,

Your Ex

P.S. Make this your last letter.

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,

James

 

 

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