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Dear Ex: How Many Women Do You Need?

Love, Heartbreak

P.S. Please share this letter with your next girlfriend.

How many women do you need? Because one is not enough. One will frustrate you. One will help you castrate yourself or liberate you .

It will be hard to tell the difference because you are your own worst enemy. You will
sabotage yourself and blame it on her. Then you will find someone else to take away the scent of the trail, the trail to yourself.

You will betray yourself with a new distraction so you never have to cross the finish line and with renewed enthusiasm you will go around in circles.

Make no mistake you will betray yourself when the going gets hard because it's going to be her fault. If she was just something enough you wouldn't have to change horses. It has nothing to do with her.

How many women do you think you're going to need ? Let yourself know. Then let yourself of the hook admit you have no intention to change and get real.

You'll always be one more woman away from where you're going, one more bridge to cross. The challenge is knowing when you're lost. When you're chasing your tail.

You will know it because nothings going to change. Because the change is in you and that's the good news.

Thank you for the lesson. I love you but not more then myself,

Your Ex

P.S. Make this your last letter.

This article was originally published at James Allen Hanrahan . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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