Timing is everything. What time is it?
It's been a few dates and now the guy you're with wants to do something you're uncomfortable with unless you're in a relationship. You explain this to him and he magically disappears, so this leads us to believe he's an uncommittable jerk, which may be true or it's not what you say it's how you say it.
When you throw out the word relationship too soon men freeze. For one, if there's going to be a relationship it has to be his idea. For two, a relationship is something that happens overtime and shared experiences. It's not something you can ask for it's something that you have. Look at your girlfriends and ask yourself; did you ever ask them to be in a relationship?
Getting back to it's not what you say it's how you say it. After a few dates the truth is you're not ready for a relationship, but you are ready to get to know him better. If he's ready and you're not ready to do something, for example sex, then you should use this formula. First let him know what you like about him and how much you enjoy being with him, then say, however, "I feel I don't want to have sex until I know you better." What do you think? Read A Life Of Love.
The answer is more valuable than the question. Here you get to find out if he cares about your feelings. If he does, good news he will get to know you better. If not, good news you won't be wasting your time talking about having a relationship with someone who doesn't care about your feelings.
It's rare that you have to ask a man if you're in a relationship, it usually means you're not. Actions speak louder than words especially when it comes to men, so get to know him better first.
P.S. Watch How To Know If You Have Chemistry In 30 seconds.
P.P.S. Look inside Dating Advice For Alpha Women; The Road To Love.
This article was originally published at http://www.jamesallenhanrahan.com/. Reprinted with permission from the author.
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