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If You Want Him, Go Get Him! 3 Things That Will Attract ANY Man

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How You Get A Guy To Like You In 3 Easy Steps
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Getting a man is occasionally a mystery. Here are the clues you need to solve it.

The best way to get a guy is to let a guy get you. There's an energetic difference that's very important because only boys want you to get them; men want to win you over and they want to get you.

In order for attraction to happen, the first thing you need is simple: be available. There has to be an opening that a man can see in order to enter your world.

They say the best relationships happen by chance, but what they don't say is these chance meetings have something in common. Here are 3 things you need to know about how to get a guy to like you:

1. Unstructured time.


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You weren't busy doing something. You were waiting for an event to start, standing in a line, waiting for your car, or at a party. This is the so-called coincidental meeting of two people who aren't busy.

My favorite places for this to happen are classes, workshops, and ongoing weekly events. Take advantage of the fact that people are friendlier in group settings, and when they see you on a regular basis. You also get to see how guys you're attracted to interact with other people.

2. Eye contact.


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Eye contact for a man is like a breath of fresh air. In a busy world where no one sees you, it can be magical. Eye contact stops time and puts you in the moment.

Take a lesson from the master flirters on the planet: babies. When they see you, they always make eye contact and keep it because they're curious about you. Do the same with men, they'll love you for it.

Many women are shy about eye contact. They tell me that when they see a guy they like, they look away because they don't want the guy to think they like him. This is obviously counterproductive.

The key to eye contact is to simply be curious about a man when you see him, just like how babies are curious. Then let him approach you. If babies can do it with great success, you can too.

To see this in action, check out Chemistry to Commitment.

3. Your smile.


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Friendly women are approachable women. It also removes the busy look from your face. For men, a smile is a signal that you're open to conversation.

It also signals a man that you're happy. Men are attracted to happy women. The most important thing is that when you smile you look approachable. Guys want to win with you and seeing your smile is a green light. Let him start a conversation with you. 

A relationship is a conversation that doesn't end. When he talks to you, you're on your way to letting a guy get you. Look inside Dating Advice For Alpha Women: The Road To Love.

James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.