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3 Secrets When He Doesn't Want A Relationship

Love, Heartbreak

Use these 3 steps to answer this statement.

It's never going to be the right time for a man to be in a relationship. Men are not in a big rush to give up their freedom. The only time a man wants a relationship is when he thinks he can't afford to lose you and the thought of you being with another man is too much for him. You may be thinking how's that going to happen? Here's what to say.

Step 1.

I understand. This is a key I share in Alpha Elite Coaching. When a man says he doesn't want to be in a relationship the first thing to say is I understand. Then say nothing else, pause, wait and then magically because you didn't say anything else he will begin to say more and explain his reasons.

If at no point you do argue with him or try to discount and change his mind you will have accomplished step one. By saying when he is finished " I understand" he will think you understand him which will be a great relief to him and he will begin to relax and open up to you. Congratulations that was not easy.

Step 2.

I want generally. After he thinks you understand him and you haven't tried to change him he will want to have sex with you. When he does tell him all the things you like and appreciate about him. Then say the magic word however followed by "I've made a commit to myself not to have casual sex. The next person I have sex with will be with a man who wants to build with me." then look off in to the distance.This is where he gets the chance to be your hero because he is attracted to your virtue and confident self love and men want to be your hero. Men marry virtue. Read A Life Of Love.

Step 3.

Say nothing more. At this point he may attempt to argue with you at which point say I understand. You have planted the seed and believe me he has heard you. By letting him know what you want generally in life and not specifically with him you give him the opportunity with no pressure from you because you know that if it's not him it will be someone else to make having a relationship with you his idea.

It takes a lot of patience to pull this off however it works. I suggest watching the DVD Chemistry To Commitment to learn all the details that make being in a committed relationship his idea.

Much love,

James

P.S. Chemistry to Commitment also has the 7 agreements men make when they commit.

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