3 Secrets When He Doesn't Want A Relationship

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3 Secrets When He Doesn't Want A Relationship
Use these 3 steps to answer this statement.

It's never going to be the right time for a man to be in a relationship. Men are not in a big rush to give up their freedom. The only time a man wants a relationship is when he thinks he can't afford to lose you and the thought of you being with another man is too much for him. You may be thinking how's that going to happen? Here's what to say.

Step 1.

 

I understand. This is a key I share in Alpha Elite Coaching. When a man says he doesn't want to be in a relationship the first thing to say is I understand. Then say nothing else, pause, wait and then magically because you didn't say anything else he will begin to say more and explain his reasons.

If at no point you do argue with him or try to discount and change his mind you will have accomplished step one. By saying when he is finished " I understand" he will think you understand him which will be a great relief to him and he will begin to relax and open up to you. Congratulations that was not easy.

Step 2.

I want generally. After he thinks you understand him and you haven't tried to change him he will want to have sex with you. When he does tell him all the things you like and appreciate about him. Then say the magic word however followed by "I've made a commit to myself not to have casual sex. The next person I have sex with will be with a man who wants to build with me." then look off in to the distance.This is where he gets the chance to be your hero because he is attracted to your virtue and confident self love and men want to be your hero. Men marry virtue. Read A Life Of Love.

Step 3.

Say nothing more. At this point he may attempt to argue with you at which point say I understand. You have planted the seed and believe me he has heard you. By letting him know what you want generally in life and not specifically with him you give him the opportunity with no pressure from you because you know that if it's not him it will be someone else to make having a relationship with you his idea.

It takes a lot of patience to pull this off however it works. I suggest watching the DVD Chemistry To Commitment to learn all the details that make being in a committed relationship his idea.

Much love,

James

P.S. Chemistry to Commitment also has the 7 agreements men make when they commit.

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James Allen Hanrahan

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I work with Alpha women and the men who love them. Smart, successful people with an on going war between their head and their heart which makes it difficult to have lasting, loving relationships. Welcome.

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,

James

 

 

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