It's the Threads. Should this means of assessing your relationship interest you, let your spouse in on it. With both of you aware of the ratio, you will begin monitoring your interactions without even thinking about it all that much. Remember, Simone Signoret once said: "Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years."
Note: Dr. Gottman's study was conducted 15 years ago. However, it rings true to this writer from professional and personal experience, and people are still people. Naturally, youmust decide for yourself.
Gottman, John. (May/June 1994). Why Marriages Fail. Family Therapy Networker, 18(3), 40+.
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