How To Find Happiness After Love Disappointed And Dumped You


A break-up or split can be difficult to overcome. You are in charge of who loves you, here's how!

It is common to feel skepticism about men or people who disappoint you, just know you are not alone in feeling this way. As you navigate the healing process we are often left with unanswered questions, the why's, the how come's, the what did I do or say?

I am here to tell you, that you are ENOUGH! And a man certainly does not define you.

However, when things don't work out with someone whether it's to do with love or any other kind of relationship, it usually represents a lack of an agreement. Most of us who are not clearly communicating and forming agreements with each other, where both are on the same page, both will have different expectations.

Expectations often lead to disappointment. So think about those love relationships and put yourself in the other person's shoes for a minute, do you recall a conversation about exclusivity from him, or the word commitment or loyalty?

Now, whether he shared these words with you or not, what did his actions of happiness portray? If a person does not follow his words with actions or simply the actions tell you how they want to be with you, than there is a lack of integrity or incongruence taking place. This may not have to do with you at all, in other words, if a person cannot be honest with themselves, how can they be honest with you?

So let's go a step deeper, what is it about yourself that you're not being honest about? The more you become honest about yourself the more you will recognize and attract a healthy person who also loves themself. Until you are honest about feelings about YOU, you will continue to mirror yourself in another and repeat toxic feel good patterns.

To become happier and healthier start loving yourself more and stop seeking confirmation from external entities. Happiness is an inside job, take some time out for you and enjoy your life and do what you love to do. In most cases, you will meet the right person who loves to do similar things that you do! Be kind to yourself and choose someone who is kind to you, by doing so you must  BELIEVE you deserve happiness, you deserve love and you can start to receive this in return.

But you must be open to receive.

Start with a new mantra, I believe and I receive mantra " I believe I am good and I am open to receive all that is good." A mantra supplies positive energy all day long. The more you think and utilize your new mantra the sooner your life will change because all that occurs is how you respond to it. Change your response, change your attitude about it and recognize there is something far better awaiting for you.

Lastly, it's ok to feel sad, disappointed, anger, we must embrace our feelings in order to understand what happiness is for you. Feel your feelings and know that all feelings are fleeting. Ponder, contemplate, express those feelings in a healthy manner, as this leads you one step closer to a happier, more loving, you!


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