Flirting With Strangers: 3 Ways To Break The Ice


Flirting With Strangers: 3 Ways To Break The Ice [EXPERT]
Keep your cool when flirting with these 3 icebreakers.

This can allow you to learn a lot about a person's background. Whether they are new in town or a long-time resident, you will get an idea about their interests and be able to use it to continue the conversation. Possibly use it for a potential date should you two make plans to get together.

2. Pay a Compliment. This plays to the human ego. Everyone likes and deserves a compliment from time to time.


It could be a piece of clothing, personal qualities that you observe or even the way they interact with others around them. If you look for things that you admire about a person, you will find them.

Example: "Hey, I like your shoes! Where did you get them?"

Make sure your compliments are sincere. People are intuitive and will be able to sense if you are "blowing smoke" and are likely to  blow you off.

3. Ask for Help, Advice or an Opinion. Asking for help plays to the humanitarian in all of us. It also stimulates the human ego because it provides a sense of being needed. There are millions of things you can ask for advice on.

Example:  If you're in a coffee shop or restaurant, ask for a menu recommendation.

Talking to strangers can be easy and fun. Keep these three conversation openers in mind and give it a shot. You will be surprised at how many doors will open for you. 7 Flirting Mistakes Women Make

Besides being a YourTango Dating Expert, J. Cameron Gantt is the Head Dating Coach at Insti(Gay)tor, a Chicago-based GLBT matchmaking agency. Need advice? Contact him directy via or visit for more info.

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J. Cameron Gantt is a Certified Life Coach and Matchmaker for Insti(Gay)tor, The Exclusively Gay Matchmaking Agency. He is a featured contributor for various dating and relationship websites offering expert advice on GLBT dating and relationships.

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