2. Choose Wisely
During cuffing season you are going to have a few prospects make their interests known. Of course there will be some new acquaintances, but there will also be a slew of old flings vying for your attention. Whatever your options, make sure you weigh the pros and cons of a potential partnership. Why You Should Date More Than One Guy At A Time [EXPERT]
Make sure you are compatible with your choice. The worst thing you can do is cuff with someone you can only tolerate in small doses. You will just end up causing yourself a lot unnecessary stress and I am certain that you have better things to worry about.
This is especially true with guys who send you the random “hey stranger” messages. Take a moment to think about why things didn’t really work out the 1st or 2nd time around before you give them a chance. Chances are that whatever it was that caused you not to vibe with that person has not changed and you might be better off investing that energy into someone else.
3. Don’t Move Too Fast
All things take time and this is especially true when you are connecting or reconnecting with someone. Try not to get caught up in the whirlwind by moving too quickly. Take your time to figure the person out and what makes them tick. Don’t come on too strong and let things develop naturally. If your partner is on the same page, the connection between you will be easy to foster.
4. Treat It Like A Real Relationship
So once you have settled on your boo for the season, do not sleep on opportunities to woo them. Just because you two have come together during cuffing season doesn’t mean that the relationship deserves mediocre effort. Capitalize off these opportunities to impress them with your natural charm.
This means that you dress up every now and then and also, go on dates outside of the house. Ordering in and watching Netflix can be fun, but don’t make it a routine. Keep the relationship active and fun so the both of you don’t get bored with each other. 5 Inexpensive Fall Date Night Ideas [EXPERT]
5. Don’t Be Afraid To Un-Cuff If Needed
If the relationship isn’t working out, don’t be afraid to let it go. Don’t create any extra stress in your world for the sake of holding on to something that doesn’t work for you and that goes for anything in your life that not serving a positive purpose. Just let the person know how you feel and make a clean break so you can move on.
Besides being a YourTango Dating Expert, J. Cameron Gantt is the Head Dating Coach at Insti(Gay)tor, a Chicago-based GLBT matchmaking agency. Download his FREE E-Guide “3 Secrets To Attract More Dates” or contact him directly for a FREE 60 minute consultation.