Try to speak at a steady pace and practice finding the rhythm in your words. Don't forget to watch your breathing. When you are engaging, it's ok to pause every now and then because it shows that you are thoughtful, intelligent and mean what you say. This also allows you to choose your words wisely – See 5 Conversations You Should Not Have On The First Date
4. Use your hands. This one is a biggie, especially for men. Women love men with nice hands, especially when they know how to use them. You should definitely take advantage of this by using them to send signals of confidence. 7 Flirting Mistakes Women Make
Learn how to incorporate them into your communication. Try not to fidget or use shaky movements. Relax and use fluid motions to express and emphasize certain words during the conversation. It shows your counterpart that you know how to express yourself and feel comfortable in doing so.
Again, find the balance in the movement as too much will make you look more feminine than you may be comfortable with. Give it a shot and see how it works for you.
Need some help? Try this action challenge: Ask a friend to do an honest imitation of you. This will give you an idea as to how others see you and allow you to make changes in areas you wish to improve. Which Flirting Style Is Best For You?
If you don't have a friend that you can trust to do this or just do not feel comfortable in asking for some help with this, you can also do it for yourself. Jump in front of a mirror and evaluate yourself in these four areas. Be honest with yourself and play around with some of these ideas to figure out what works best for you.
Besides being a YourTango Dating Expert, J. Cameron Gantt is the Head Dating Coach at Insti(Gay)tor, a Chicago-based GLBT matchmaking agency. Need advice? Contact him directly via YourTango.com/experts or visit www.instigaytor.com for more info.