The New Year means New Rules! Reclaim your happiness & acheive your goals with these 5 simple tips
The New Year is right around the corner and with that comes the opportunity for you to create some big changes in your life. Let’s face it, most of us make all sorts of resolutions when the New Year rolls around and most times, they never really stick.
As Chicago’s resident gay dating coach, this time of year is always fairly busy for me because I have guys who really want to make changes towards finding their ultimate happiness. What most of them fail to realize is that until you can be comfortable and confident with yourself, building a relationship with anyone else is next to impossible. 3 Tips On Self Love and Relationship Readiness [EXPERT]
As Chicago’s resident gay dating coach, I could go on and on about the reasons why your quest for love is not working for you. Not only have I coached over a hundred gay men on rebooting their love lives, I have also experienced it.
So if you have resolutions for love, relationships, career, health and you want to make sure you achieve them, I am going to give you 5 tips that you can use now to ensure your success for 2013.
1. Practice Self-Awareness
A man who is self-aware, knows what he wants and is willing to take action is irresistible. These are the type of men who consistently attract irresistible and worthy opportunities for love, life and success. It’s a law of attraction!
Being self-aware does not mean that you are without flaws. We all have weaknesses that hinder us in some ways but when you are aware of yourself and practice self-efficacy, you can find ways to better yourself and turn those weaknesses into strengths. It keeps you grounded.6 Fatal Dating Mistakes [EXPERT]
Combine that with action and accountability and you are well on your way to getting what you want.
Action Item: Make a list of things of your strengths and weaknesses and weigh them against each other. Examine your weaknesses and think of ways you can go about turning them into strengths. Once you have a plan, take action immediately to start making those changes. Don’t put it off.
2. Get Fit and Stay Healthy
Life can be demanding. Let’s face it, most of us are busy creatures and have a laundry list of responsibilities that need to be addressed. In order to keep up, you have to find ways to stay healthy and active.
Get regular check-ups and make sure you pay attention to your body. When something doesn’t feel right, get it checked out.
Also, make it a point to start exercising. This is important because the more active you are, the more energy and stamina you will have. This will also do wonders for your confidence and mental clarity. You will find yourself less stressed and in a better mood.
Action Item: Find ways to work these things into your schedule. There are 24 hours in a day so you can always find the time to get in some physical activity. If you don’t know where to start, invest in a coach, personal trainer or nutrition specialist and work with them to come up with a plan. Do it now! The longer you put it off, the less likely it is for you to do it.
3. Find A Support System
Everyone needs support in order to be successful. More importantly, you need people in your corner to hold you accountable for your actions.
Surround yourself with positive people. This can be friends, family or you can go out and meet new people who share similar goals. This way, you will never be alone on your journey and you can support each other in accomplishing your goals.
Action Item: Start thinking about who you know, who you would like to meet and what you can do to support each other. Align yourself with them and start having regular conversations with those people about your shared goals. You will start to see your plans come together and success is sure to follow.
4. Laugh As Much As Possible
A sense of humor is essential for survival. We all know that sometimes, BS just happens and it is beyond our control. Instead of letting it put you into a negative space, try to find the humor in it and laugh about it. You may have to cry, yell and break things at first, but in the end give it a chuckle and chalk it up to experience.
Once you can do this, it will prevent you from letting negative experiences keep you from finding positive ones. Also, these funny stories make killer ice breakers in social situations.
Action Item: Think about an experience you have had that still erks the hell out of you and write it out. Find the humor and turn it into a story. Make a punchline out of it and use it as a way to relate to other.
5. Celebrate Your Successes
Successes can be big or small. Maybe you landed a new job or a promotion at work. Maybe it’s something as simple as organizing your closet. You should always celebrate the things you are proud of.
This is important because it gives you a sense of self-worth and it reinforces the idea that no matter how big or small your contributions may be, you as a person are adding value to the world as a whole.
Action Item: Think about something you did this week that you were really proud of and celebrate it. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and smile about it. If you can’t think of anything you have done that you should be proud of, now is the time to make a plan, do something that will add value to your life and celebrate it.
So what are your resolutions for 2013 and what will you do to make sure you succeed? Share your questions and comments below and let us know how you feel.
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