And to the age old question of "Are all men cheaters, liars or committment-phobes?" -- I say men lie, cheat, and/or refuse to commit to any women who accept those behaviors. Hell, women do too!
It’s not about “doing” something; it’s about “believing”something, “being” something. When you know your value as a woman, without a man, as defined by you and when you believe that definition with your whole heart, then you become an invitation to commitment. You inspire it. And men will want to be with you because of who you are (secure, self-confident loving, kind, radiant, healthy, vital), NOT what you do.
So, I know what you are thinking . . . How do you inspire committment from a man? How do I become this "invitation" you mentioned?"
One thing I do want to define for you as the term "being an invitation."
The term "being" means a living thing. What I mean when I used this term is simply implys one should consider how one is "living" life. In other words, how is your life expressed each day?. Is it a sad life, an angry life, a frustrated life; or a sweet life, an adventurous life, an inviting life?
Do YOU want to be with you, date you, love you?
If anything but a clear and resounding "YES!" comes up, then there is no need to even read any further. For you this is where "being an invitation" begins. It begins with you actually wanting and enjoying who you are, and where you are in your life. If you don't want to be with you, why would any one else want to? If you feel like there is something missing, he will too. Even if all that is missing is partnership, men can feel that level of need for partnership eminating from you. It feels like pressure - and no man wants to be with a woman who pressures him for anything.
I am going to assume for our purposes that you are absolutely in love with yourself. You have a healthy self image, and you are ready to date powerfully with clarity and focus on achieving a relationship with a mate. That said, here are four key questions you can ask yourself that will help you put yourself and your needs first so you can date with a clear inviting intention.
1 – What do you want?
2 – What are the issues/barriers preventing you from having what you want?
3 – How do you set and honor your boundaries with men?
4 – How quickly do YOU move on when the relationship or the man is not right for you?
Ok, I’ll explain.