9. You can create the life you love and want. This is a great time to follow your bliss and pursue your dreams. Now is the time to go after that promotion, renovate your condo, get that degree or certification, make a career change. Get together with friends, throw parties, attend parties, take cruises, join a few MeetUps and meet new like-minded people (maybe even a few cool like-minded men). Enrich your life. Finally take those cooking classes you've been dreaming of, start that business, sign up for ballroom dancing, take those music or voice lessons you've been talking about forever. Go skydiving, drive a race car, ride a motorcycle. Try zip-lining, bungee jumping, medieval folk dancing, or knitting. Create a life you can't wait to wake up to.
10. You can be incredibly selfish. When you are in a relationship, you're constantly weighing the impact of your choices on the man or the relationship as a whole, but when you are single, you can be as selfish as you please. People will understand and even work around it. When I tell my family not to contact me during my free weekends, they don't. If I tell a friend I am treating myself, they ask if they can come with me and treat themselves. When I tell them, "No, this is my time ... " they understand.
It is perfectly acceptable that I focus on myself when I have the space and freedom to do so. I am not talking about being neglectful of responsibilities, I am talking about owning your energy, your time, all of your resources and spending them as you please without permission or approval from anyone else. It's selfish. It's actually spending what you have on yourself. Most women in relationships spend all their time and energy on the man, the family, the relationship. In the end, there's very little left over for themselves. When you are single, this is one of the best times to fully enjoy spending everything you've got on the most important person in your life—you!