3 – Call – Don’t Text. The worst thing a guy can do is get a woman’s number and then text her to death. Women complain about this all the time. It makes sense in the grander scheme of things since generally women like to talk more than men. However, in the initial stages talking/connecting it’s critical. Most women complain that guys get their number either only text or never make contact at all. If you have the number, she wants you to call. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but it’s feels weak and honestly, a bit weird to have a man send you this great email, ask for your number and then only send text messages. We just don’t get that!
4 – Ask Her Out. If you’ve talked once or twice, and you are enjoying the conversation, enjoying woman, escalate and ask her out. It shouldn’t take more than one or two conversations to know if you actually want to be in her company for an hour or two. And if you can’t make up your mind, you probably don’t and that’s ok too. But seriously, no women goes go through the trouble of getting on an online dating site to have a lengthy conference calls. And be honest, neither did you.
5 – Be Straight. At some point in this dialogue or on the date, what you want is bound to be a topic of conversation. Keep it real. Most women are ok with the guy telling her what he wants, so long as he’s given her the opportunity to say what she wants as well and she gets to choose. Don’t pretend you want a relationship right up until you ejaculate and then all of a sudden, you just don’t want to get serious. I’ve heard many women say if a man just said what he wanted in the beginning it would have been cool, but making her think he wanted what she wanted just get laid, or get his laundry done, or simply not be alone on a Friday night is manipulative. In this day and age it is acceptable for women to want sex as much as men. And I think if you are straight about your wants in that regard, you might actually get more of what you want than when you are manipulative. Let’s face it guys (and gals too if it applies) nobody likes being played. It makes you feel foolish, embarrassed. Just be straight and “own” your intention. Then where you two choose to go with one another is up to you. There are plenty of people that have a “defined relationship or arrangement” while they wait, or search for their “soul-mate.” And there’s nothing wrong with that. The deal only goes sour when you pretend something you’re not. It’s dishonest, mean, and dick-ish.
Honestly, it’s pretty easy to get a date online if you actually come to the table acknowledge you want a date and take action to that end. Hanging out writing endless emails and texting, leaves you dateless, sexless, and starved for human affection.
If you are willing to step up to the plate and take a little bit of risk, your reward will be greater than if you continue hiding behind technology. Instead of hiding behind technology, like most men, be that guy that stands out and actually requests the presence of the lady in question. In this techy world of email, IM, texting, and Skpe, nothing stands out more than a man who is confident enough in himself to actually meet a woman face-to-face.
Coach Ivy is a Life Strategist and Dating/Relationship coach. If you are interested in exploring a opportunity to connect with Coach Ivy in person schedule your Confidential Coaching Consult at http://www.lifecoachivy.com/Email-Me---Reqest-a-Consult.html or call 410.997.0272.