For those of you that know me, you know I hate to complain. I’d rather be part of the solution rather than the problem any day and twice on Sunday. So rather than a litany of what frustrates women about online dating, I am going to give MEN 5 things you can do IMMEDIATELY that will change your online dating results.
It is not for the faint hearted. It does involve you being in “action”; in other words, you are going to have to “get on the court” and actually play like you are in it, to win it rather than hide behind technology. It’s going to be risky, just like when you meet a woman in person, you are definitely going to be more vulnerable. And you may get more “Nos,” but I guarantee you will get MORE “Yeses” too! Besides you guys are tough – I think you can handle it. ;)
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So gentlemen, it’s time to get some hair on your peaches and sound-off like you have a set. Women -- confident, sexy women -- want to date a man who isn’t afraid to declare his interest and follow through with action. There is nothing that turns a woman on more than a man who knows what he wants, and what he wants is her! And even sexier, is a man actually leading the relationship, a man actually taking action to express his interest in ways that move the interaction forward. Notice the guy who always gets the girl is generally confident about himself as a man, and definitely confident about his interest in her. Even if he gets shot down, it doesn't alter his confidence in himself and sometimes it doesn't even sway his interest in her. And there are many ladies who will tell you it was his "persistence" that won them in the end.
That said, I am not advocating you become a confident but determined internet stalker - that's just scary. I am saying hold your ground about your genuine interest in her - even online. It conveys through your action and can be very attractive if done with confidence, respect, and a bit of personal style.
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1 – Say More Than “Hi”. Gentlemen . . . "HI" works if you are meeting face to face. Walking up to a woman and saying “Hi” and waiting for her to say “Hi” back is straight forward in-person because presumably, you made eye contact, had a couple of longing looks and you “know” she’s interested. Online it falls flat. And if you are 1 out of 100 “Hellos” in the queue, there is nothing about this message that will make you stand out unless you are exceptionally HOT - and that's if she even bothers to look at your profile burried 57 deep in a pile of "Hi-s". And unless you are on a site specifically about “hooking up,” or her profile specifically indicates that is her interest, most women are on these sites to date, and cultivate a relationship, so opening with anything overtly sexual generally speaking will not get you the results you seek either.
Side note - if it comes to a choice between "overtly sexual" and "sort of sexual" personally speaking I'll take overt. At least I know where I stand. And a overtly sexual line delivered in a clever manner will get you a response.