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Day 16 - The Quiet Before the Storm

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Reclaiming Your Vitality - The Journey

I love Sundays.  For me they are days of quiet reflection, re-centering, re-setting your mind, spirit, and body for the week.


These are the days my self care is always my number one priority.  With the flurry of activity during the week, I never know if I'll get it all in each and every day, but on Sundays, I make sure I get it all in. 


It's the one day of the week I can really reconnect with myself without being hurried, rushed.  There's no school, no work, no place I have to be.  And any chores or errands are those of my choosing.  Honestly, I try not to "do" anything on Sundays unless I absolutely have too.  Sundays are my Sabbath.  I think all human beings need at least one day a week as a Sabbath - a 24 hour period  to do nothing.  A day of self nurturing and a day for nurturing your family and/or community relationships


These are two very important aspect of our lives and yet they often get neglected or de-prioritized to the bottom of the list. 


Taking care of yourself and connecting with your family/community/tribe often give you the fuel to meet those whirl-wind weeks head on; to put in the extra hours needed for work, for your children, for your spouse, for that sick relative, or broken hearted friend.


And connecting with your peeps for fun, laughs, love, has you feel heard, loved, valued, a part of something, a part of a collective. So when you feel frustrated with those outside your circle, you can draw upon the wisdom, insights and patience you gained from dealing with those inside your circle.


Human beings need this. We need this self care, this connection with our family/tribe.   It's a part of who we are, how we are built.


So on Sundays, probably my favorite day of the week for this very reason, I like to do mindful exercise, Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong.  Something that enhances the mind body connection and fosters a deep sense of presence, in the power of this moment.  Something that actually slows me down, and has me connect in a deep way to myself which supports my connection to my tribe.


I also like journal extra long on Sundays.  It's great for clearing things out and setting intentions for the week.  I dump my struggles on the pages and embrace my dreams, my hopes, my affirmations.


I read a spiritual text filling my head and heart with the magic,  majesty, and magnificence of the universe and reconnect to my higher power.


And I meditate - quieting all the chatter and my spirit which has been bombarded all week as I was  "doing" my life.


Then I go about my day consciously connecting to those I love.  Since today is Father's Day my interactions will have a theme.  But you don't need a theme to connect with the people in your life; or if you do, create one.  I've done that a few times and it just adds to the fun and interest of the moment.


Today, I will go and get coffee and sit and chat with my dad this morning.  Then I will pick up my Cupcake from her dad and sit with him and acknowledge him as a father, the father of my only child.


I will reach out to my step dad and tell him I love him and all he's done to support me as a dad in my life.


I will reach out to friends who are dads and tell them how amazing they are and encourage them to continue the good work they do with their children.


Then I will cook a nice meal and enjoy the process the sights, sounds, smells, of a good meal.  My daughter and I will spend time together laughing and playing.


I may nap or read this afternoon.


I may watch tv.


I may do a dream board or other creative activity with my daughter.


And at the end of the day, I will feel refreshed, relaxed, rejuvenated.  I will be ready for the week ahead.


And when the storms come next week, and they will come, I will draw upon this time with myself and my family.  I will remember the quiet of the present moment.  I will remember the spiritual words of wisdom.  I will remember to breathe in the midst of a challenge.  I will call a good friend for support.  I will come home to a loving relationship.   And I will make sure to stick to my exercise routine because I know it keeps my stress levels down, my immune system solid, and gives me the stamina to meet the challenges of the week.


Sometimes life can seem like one storm after another, or for some people one mega storm that leaves a lot of damage in the aftermath.  The key is know how to create and find your own sunshine in the moment.  These quiet, Sundays are my sunshine.  Each of these practices are a ray of light that I can use at any time when I am faced with a challenge.  Each practice is like a fully charged battery that I can use during the week.  You may not use any or you may use them all.  But it is better to have them then not.


This is huge part of reclaiming your vitality.  It's a part of creating reserves which is what you ultimately end up drawing up during challenge, a storm, a crisis.  Think about it, if you have a car accident, you'll need to get that cash from savings or else your budget is impacted.  And if you have no savings, then you are facing a world of challenges.  That is what vitality is all about, having enough now and having enough in reserves that you can meet life head on, look it dead in the eye and say bring it on!

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