Are You Ad'dic"ted?

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Are You Ad'dic"ted?
When the SEX is hot, and the relationship is not!

Ok, perhaps I am giving in to sensationalism just a bit, BUT I am also speaking the truth!  How many of you ladies have stayed with a man because –the sex was hot!  I mean that man could wield his penis like Thor wields his hammer!  You’ve never screamed so loud!  You’ve never had that many orgasms.  You’ve can’t believe how long he spent going down on you.  You’ve never been with such a primal, generous lover in your life!  I mean he really knows how to bring it (work it, slam it, pound it, do it, or whatever euphemism you prefer)!

And like all great things that tap into our pleasure center (food, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, sugar, tv, etc.) consistently, somehow we get just a bit out of balance.  We can’t see the forest for the trees and before you know it we’re addicted.  Some people would say some addictions are healthy.  Wrong!  All addictions are UNHEALTHY.  When you can’t walk away from something or someone, it is not good.  You can be committed, but not addicted.  A person committed to fitness, can work out every day, and also take a rest when tired or injured.  A person addicted to fitness will never rest.  They will run even if it is detrimental to their health, or others are hurt watching them kill themselves to be fit.  The will go into debt to maintain their gym membership.  They will risk injury or illness to get that run in.  Addiction is addiction, no matter what the vice.  It can be physiological, psychological, or emotional.

Good sex, consistently good sex for women is hard to come by, so it’s real easy get addicted real fast.  When a man can satisfy you to the point of screaming, that is absolutely worth going back for seconds, thirds, fourths, and fifths.  I once had a woman tell me her man made her hallucinate jewelry during orgasm.   [Now that’s a penis I could happily claim an addiction.]  Seriously, speaking we all know that women secrete oxytocin a bonding chemical during sex.  The more you sex him, the more you bond.  And if the sex is good, you are likely to sex him more, bond more, and thus the addiction is well on the way. 

There is also the chemical addiction of emotion.  Emotions are nothing but chemical reactions in the brain, much like a sugar addiction, or a heroine addiction.   When you see him, you HAVE to sex him.  And when you do there is an emotional high, chemicals create euphoria, pleasure released just like the first bite of a piece of chocolate or the first hit from the crack pipe.  Conversely, when not with him, there is a plummeting low, those chemicals aren’t released and thus you crave him.  The craving causes other chemicals/emotions to be released, sadness, frustration, longing, and loneliness.  And just like a heroine jones, you just can’t wait to get another shot of that d*ck, his d*ck.  That’s why so many of the advice columns give women advice and end with this same phrase “. . . no matter how good the sex is!” 

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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