3 Oh-So-SEXY Reasons To Write Your OWN Erotic Fiction (Yes, YOU!)

Since the huge success of 50 Shades of Grey, erotica came back into our lives with a BANG (pun intended). As more and more people — both women and men — started reading the series, everyone became a bit more relaxed and open towards sex talk. Actually, women became liberated, in a sense.

Talking, wishing or dreaming of erotica, sex, and S&M, was not frowned upon anymore, and this sudden movement opened new doors for erotica writers. 

And guess what? Writing erotic fiction is SUPER beneficial for your sex life. You could do so much for yourself — whether it's building confidence or trying out new things in the bedroom — erotica could be your therapy. Your LIBERATION. Here's how:

1. It boosts your confidence (BIG TIME!)

Expressing yourself is helpful in any situation, whether it is relationship, sex or job related. Therefore, writing erotica could be a great way to express yourself and boost your confidence.

For example, if there is something you like or do not like, let a character say that. Being honest is a very important part of any sexual relationship. Moreover, if you have any insecurities about your body, transfer that to the story as well.

Once you let all this out, even on paper, you will feel a lot better — like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

2. You can learn to connect on a deep, emotional level.

Sex is not only physical. There is more to it than flesh. If you want to have the best experience, then you need to connect with your partner on an emotional level. You don't need to be in love with him or her, but wanting them for something other than their body should be important.

If you like spending time with them, how they touch you, seduce you with their eyes, and the words that flow from their mouth, if you love how their brain works — this is all you need to create that emotional connection.

However, if you are unable to achieve this in your real life, try doing it in your erotic fiction. Communicate how you feel about someone, how you could satisfy them, and how you could be satisfied. Convey how you feel about them. Write until you feel confident enough to relax and let yourself have the ultimate bedroom experience.

3. You can (finally!) let your inner FREAK out.

If you've ever had any fantasies, NOW is your time to share them. If you want to tell your partner what you dream of, but are too shy, perhaps saying it in your story would be a good first step towards doing it in reality.

For example, you could create a character who would let her inner seductress and freak out in the open. No matter how weird or kinky your fantasies might be, let it all out. Hopefully, this would build your confidence and help you realize them in real life.
Whether your work is penned under your real name, or you are working as a ghostwriter (which some might label immoral), it's important to keep doing it if it makes YOU feel GREAT. Don't pay much attention to other people’s opinion. Yes, they have a right to it — but it doesn’t mean you have to obey them.

You should strive to be your own woman, strong and confident. No one should put you in a corner ... unless it’s a part of your bedroom routine.