Why taking and giving to eachother is so important in a healthy marriage.
Taking a look at marriage breakups makes me question the beliefs we hold based on cheating. I feel strongly enough about cheating to voice my opinion as a mistress. There’s a need for us to address and face our “self love” and “vanity” as both lead us to believe we have the rights to own each other, especially if we are married to the person. Many are unaware that we are composite parts that relate to the three aspects to our being. 3 Mistakes Women ALWAYS Make When They Suspect Their Man's Cheating
As we verify the features of our being, we get a better understanding of ourselves enough to have mercy for ourselves as well as the other person in question. No one person or any one thing satisfies the whole being to us. For any manifestation to produce results, three forces come into play. This helps to explain why no one or two, be it a thing or person satisfies or unifies the ‘whole’ in us.
There are thoughts and feelings we make the choice to give up, sacrifice, redirect, or turn away. These are choices we’ve made but there’s no freedom because we are bound by laws. Whether they are man-made laws or cosmic laws, we are tied on both sides.
There are those that use marriage as a means for control, to dictate the other person’s life in what they believe and hold what they’re to do, under the umbrella of love. Or there are those who use quotations from the Bible when they don’t fully understand themselves. We live in a physical world that needs to be faced and dealt with in a practical way from the reality of our lives.
It’s useful to remember and to be aware that each person sits on their own stool. That we cannot change. Yet with respect, valuation, empathy, and compassion, there’s lots of love and happiness for us to share.
Many of us women assume that just being his wife is enough. Many take this role for granted, unable to picture themselves in their husband's shoes. Simply being happy wearing a ring as Mrs. This or That appears to be enough for them, leaving him devoid of their love and understanding. Are You In A Semi-Happy Marriage?
This concept of believing we have the right to own has made us leave out the importance of relationships through respect, valuation, empathy and compassion. We often forget to take into account the other person’s feelings or point of view.
A common human weakness we all have is showing people what we would like them to hold and believe from us. Are you aware that our actions are based on associations, identifications, self-love and vanity from the false perceptions we hold of ourselves? Ownership is not apart of creation’s hand as we are intermixed together one within the other as life moves along.
The stars, the sun, the earth, and the moons’ influences work together though each are separate from one another. We find one side to us on the outside and another on the inside. It’s like the palms on our hands. Each palm is different. This runs right across our lives just like our knowledge and our being.
A man needs his mistress. There are three aspects to his being in need of their own source of food in order to play their own hand. His wife supplies him with one, his mistress another and so do the others who come to him in between. It’s important that we are more aware of how we deal with each others feelings and emotions in our relationships.
It's different for each person. We don’t know who we will meet. Will he or she be a treat to greet, or a fear to beware? These things come to us at their own time. We are not given or shown the all we’re to know. It’s revealed bit by bit as they come and we go.
If he says he loves in this moment, it’s only a part to him saying so, and he may not feel the same way the next moment when another part to him steps in. He could be saying he loves you through his feelings and it may not be true through his thoughts. Taking ourselves to be one unified person at the same and at all times is our greatest self deception. In reality, it’s a fallacy.
A man needs his mistress to help him find balance in himself. To make him feel like a man, and this is the most important thing to him. He knows what he feels for his wife, and he knows how his mistress makes him feel. Though often she’s regarded as coming to him second hand, she makes him stand up strong to feel real himself.
There are features that are characteristic of our human nature and unless we make an effort to see them, and they horrify us enough to face the struggle to change, our inner mechanical weakness shall remain.
A man uses his own tool, his own means to make himself happy. Is he not entitled to his own happiness for when his breath leaves his body? Is he not on his own? In life, we are to dare to be the all we can be. Yet, to see the all is in and around us. This too can set us free.
Nothing stands alone, no one is an island. We need to take and give to one another. So let us let it be.