So you want the secrets to being sexy every day of the week? When we talk about being sexy our minds start conjuring up everything the media has told us is sexy; the perfect beach body, the gorgeous red carpet dress, or the 6-pack abs. No matter who or what comes to mind, we’ve created a seemingly elusive air-brushed idea of sexiness defined by our outward appearances. But sexiness isn’t just about what’s on the outside. What if you already have everything you need to be sexy every day of the week and you don’t need to get into super shape, buy a whole new wardrobe, or spend a ton of money? It’s actually quite simple when you break it down.
Nurture Your Confidence.
Confidence is sexy, in men or women, and we all have that friend who seems to have been born with confidence and can do and say anything without fear. Most of us squeaked through adolescence and our teenage years with only a small spark remaining of the confidence we had as a small child, and we’ve been cultivating what remained ever since. Confidence and self-esteem need constant nurturing, but the nice thing is that if you are challenged in this area, you can fake it until you’re all there. Ask your most confident friend if she feels that way all the time and you’ll be surprised to know she’s faking it sometimes – but you’d never know it. Don’t make nurturing your confidence harder than it needs to be, spend time doing things you’re good at, and when you’re not feeling so confident, act like you are and no one’s the wiser.
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Maintain your Mystery.
When you see the classy and trashy pictures in Cosmo, the model or actress that looks like a street walker normally ends up on the trashy side and the classic and more modest is lauded as the sexier of the two. Leave something to their imagination with the way you dress and the way you share your life when meeting someone new. We women tend to over share sometimes, and who doesn’t enjoy a little mystery in their new mate or even the mate they’ve known for 20 years?
Cultivate Your Own Identity
Independence is sexy every day of the week. Make sure you have and are cultivating your own life. There’s nothing less sexy than the needy partner who won’t go anywhere without you. Seeing your partner through the eyes of someone new is a fabulous way to create and maintain desire in long-term relationships, and this happens when you have new friends and interests. This is so crucial after you become a mom. It’s so easy to get sucked into your kids’ lives and have that consume you. Don’t lose your identity as a woman when you take on the role of mom. Your kids grow up and will have their own lives, keep yours.