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Tips to think in possibilities

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Tips to think in possibilities
One of the ways of breaking free from those ‘handed down’ thoughts is to set goals.

Everyone, at some point of her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who finds the ‘silver bullet’ for weight loss? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust on the shelves jammed with self-help books.

This is a sad turn of events. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in creating the life we desire, we get caught up in the dull routine of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? You don’t have to just exist! Life could be so much better, if only you knew how.

Knowing how is easier than you think. The first step is setting goals. You neglect to set goals because you immediately think, “it takes too long,” or “it’s impossible.” So, why bother? This is called stinking thinking. Allowing stinking thinking such as “I can't do this”, “It's too hard”, “I’m too old/young”, “It's too impossible”, or “No one can do this” guarantees you continue barely existing.

What if some of the great inventors had used stinking thinking.  Many of the conveniences we use today and take for granted would not have been invented. What would your life be like without air conditioning, inside plumbing, electricity, stop lights, Supermarkets and the list is endless.

The bumblebee is a great example of limitless, breakthrough thinking and adventurous living. Theoretically, scientist said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Fortunately for the bumblebee, it did not know how to communicate with the scientist! Therefore, it made up its own mind and does the impossible; it flies!

Wouldn’t it be great if we could be like the bumblebee and do the impossible? We can, if only we could remove the “clutter” from all the negatives we’ve heard throughout our lives. “You can’t do that”, “You think you’re better than us”, “It’s never been done in our family”, and the list goes on.

The people who gave you the negatives are the ‘scientist’ in your life. These ‘scientist’ took their self-doubt and self-limiting beliefs (fear) and handed them down to you. Holding on to these handed down beliefs is like wearing hand-me-down clothes. That’s all you can do for now, you ‘have’ to wear them.

BUT you earnestly wish you could have something new; something just for you, something that fits you now!

Something new and fits now is waiting for you. It’s waiting for you to be bold, to imagine the possibilities and unlock your potential. Turn your life around by breaking through your limiting beliefs and self-doubt (fear). You can have; in fact, it’s your birthright to have the life you dream of. I believe if you can dream it, you can have it, be it and do it. It’s entirely up to you!

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Inez Bracy

Life Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

Every day I get calls from women around the world sharing with me how they are frustrated because of new situations in their life and they don't know how to cope.  They just want to know what to do to feel peaceful and calm again.

I show Sassy-Phenomenal-Inspired-Conscious-Empowered-Yummy (SPICEY) women how to radiate confidence, feel sexy, be flirty, exude femininity, make more money and design the lifestyle they choose infused with joy, love and laughter.

I share with them tips they can use immediately to go from frustration to peaceful, calm and feeling like a goddess. 

Click here to watch me on Lifetime TV, The Balancing Act.

Inez Bracy,

Lifestyle Transitions Coach, Radio & TV Personality, Award Winning Author

Location: Orange City, FL
Credentials: MS
Specialties: Life Transitions
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